Dear Birth Mom,

We wish we knew all the right words to say to you. We can only imagine the thoughts, feelings, emotions, highs, and lows that you have come through this far.
We had so many dreams for what our life would be like after we got married. JC has always been so good with little children and they love and adore him. Jena can't help but go into a dream-like state whenever she sees him interacting with our nieces and nephews. Dreaming of what it would be like to hear the laughter of our little ones as he played tickle tag with them, or the excitement on their faces as he came home from work.
We were both so excited to begin the process of starting our family. Little did we know it was going to be more like a long, bumpy road with many ups and downs. At one of our highest points we were told that a pregnancy test had come back positive. Being overwhelmed with joy was an understatement! We were finally going to be parents! Later this dream was taken away as we were in the emergency room being told that we were having a miscarriage. How could this be happening? How could our lives be ending up this way? What had we done to deserve this?
Following this miscarriage, many prayers were offered in our behalf. In the following months to come we carried on with high hopes to conceive again. After numerous doctor’s visits, medications, fertility treatments, and medical procedures, unfortunately we are still left with empty arms. After a lot of contemplating and sincere prayer, we feel that a possible adoption would be such an incredible blessing. Through adoption we one day will get that long awaited opportunity to be parents.
We reiterate the fact that we can only imagine what you are going through. On the flip side of the coin we have felt the pain of loss. We have had life changing experiences. We have felt discouragement when things have not gone as planned.
Whatever it took for you to get to this point, we want to express how proud we are of you. How much respect we have for you to be so honorable and unselfish to place the best interests of your baby before the desires of your own mind and heart. We wish we could ease the heart ache that comes along with such a decision. We know and testify that the only One that can do that is our loving Heavenly Father. We also testify that He helped us through much heart ache when we felt so alone and discouraged. In the Garden of Gethsemane He has experienced the very pain and heartache you, and we, have been through. We pray that you too can feel of His love and companionship and be able to draw strength from that. Good luck with all that lies ahead of you. We pray that you can feel the peace of His loving embrace as you make the decisions that will most benefit this child.